“Your Friends and Neighbors” Star Olivia Munn

Air Date: Wednesday, April 8^th   

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Drew & Sunny on the “Admin Nights” Trend and Sunny Having No Credit Cards

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Drew: I think it's also riddled with stress and shame. It stressful, to open yourself up to know what you have towards other people. That is like, why don't you go to come to my next gynecology appointment while you're at it since we're that close.

Ross: The thing is I would go with you if you want.

Drew: I also think it's also really stressful to talk about the things that you know are making and breaking your life. So what I've had to do recently because I've had a whole financial overhaul is I've just had to admit what I have, what my faults are, where my spending habits are really getting me in trouble, where I'm doing OK, what I need less of, what I need more of, and where my priorities are, and I've, I just got to the point where I was like, I have, I need help. I've gotta talk this stuff out. I've gotta look at it, face it and I've got to deal with it. I do think doing it in community does hold you accountable. It does make you carve out the time differently. You can really sit down for an hour or two and make big changes in your life that will save you a lot of money. And, so I, if had you asked me like 6 months, a year ago about the story, I'd have been like I don't wanna talk about my money with anyone.

Sunny: I talk about it all the time. I love it because I think that many families you grew up, you didn't talk about it at all. It's very uncomfortable and it manifests later on in your life. I grew up with my dad showing us his paycheck, showing us the bills. I'll make a confession. I haven't had a credit card or credit since 1998.

Drew: What?

Sunny: No debt. Zero debt. Oh, is that shocking. Yeah, I haven't had a credit card or a credit since 1998. People are like, how did you travel? Well, I would take 500 bucks with me to check into a hotel because that's what you had to do back then. I couldn't rent a car, so I had tricks for that. I would like to land at an airport and I would take the hotel shuttle to the hotel close to where I was staying and then just walk or whatever, but like, yeah, I always figured it out.

Drew: Is it true also that you are living like a zero debt life?

Sunny: I'm zero debt, yeah, zero debt since 1998.

Olivia Munn on Choosing Projects with Female Characters That Actually Have a Story

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Olivia: I only wanted to do projects where she would exist even if he didn't exist. You know that it wasn't just his story and, and, and I was like I'd rather just play like a cashier in one moment in one scene where she's really interesting and you can tell that she goes home and has a whole other life than to be the lead with just his story.

Drew: I always felt that way too, and I thought it was such a disservice to women to be that like sidekick, non-eventful girl that usually is a little like unnerving and grading and I was like, no, I don't wanna do that to us women that's not what we're like and by the way if they are run, but that's not the majority of our experience.

Olivia: Also I also went in, I think that idea of like hating men and portraying that energy as well is, is, it just creates the divide. I just think it's important to like lead with positivity and, but that doesn't mean that I haven't had those experiences. I mean there have been a few times where I've been filming something and my character, like we're either like CIA or a cop or something and there's been scenes where my character has been the one to save the other character, and I remember I was in this bunker once, and if you read the script it was that he was guarding his side, I was guarding my side, then we switched sides, and then there's a guy that was coming for him who was going to shoot him in the back, so I shoot him and then we're about to shoot and somehow I guess he didn't read the script and in that moment he realized, wait, wait, wait, hold on, she can't save me. No, no, she, she can't save me. And then everything stops down and there was no insecurity about being obnoxious and everyone hearing this would be like she can't save me, we're not doing this. And then the director, he was combative with the director and finally I was like after like 45 minutes of just stopping down, I said, OK, how about instead of my character saving you, it just is that we switch because it's time for us to switch and so this is my guy to get, he was like, OK, now here's the interesting thing, nothing changed. It's just what he thought. I was doing the exact same thing.

Olivia on Trust & Dating Her Now Husband at 6 Months Pregnant

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Drew: When you met your husband. I find that sometimes for me like trust is my armor.

Olivia: Now when you're talking about trust, I've had to deal with that a lot and I, the thing that came to me, so when, when I only started dating my husband when I was 6 months pregnant. The best time to start dating someone and a lot of trust had to come forward and again I was like you, there's just, it's so hard to trust people. And then I realized that if I believe in myself, and I feel like there are people out there who are trustworthy the way that I know I'm trustworthy then there's a way for us to meet and if somebody betrays your trust, just leave.

I know that's easier said than done, but when you give yourself rules and parameters, then you, you stick to that, you're like, this is what I do, and I move on, because if you don't open yourself up to trust, then you won't seem trustworthy yourself, and you have to know that if there is you, you exist in the world, right? Like you, Drew, are here and you know, even if subconsciously you don't feel like that you're worthy of self love, you also, you know it, you're like I wanna be happy, I want this person, I wanna find this person, so you do believe in yourself and if you exist, somebody else out there exists for you. Now when it comes to making the decision to walk away when someone breaks your trust. I find that what's really helped me is I think about my future self. I'm like, you know, the me in 10 years is depending on the me today to do the right thing. Like the me today is really hoping that the me 2 years ago started working out, but I didn't.

Olivia on Post Partum Anxiety & How She Deals with Fears of Parenting

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Olivia: I was not prepared for the postpartum anxiety. I was prepared for depression, which is the only thing I'd heard about, and it was about like a month or so post having the baby that all of a sudden I woke up at 4 a.m., my eyes popped open, and I would just go, and I would feel this pressure in my chest and the tightness, and I would walk around the entire day like that. And I woke up every day exactly like that at 4 a.m. for almost a whole year. And I struggled so much. I didn't tell anybody at first because I was like, what is this? I don't know what this is.

Drew: Can I ask like what was, if, if there was the question of what is the worst fear, what is the worst thing that could happen, what would the answer be?

Olivia: You know, anything horrible happening to my children.

Drew: Yes, OK. I can't believe you're saying this because I, I like, I literally have lived in that state since my kids were born.

Olivia: Oh yes, yes, yes, it's like, you know, John and I talk about it a lot. It's oh my gosh, hi.

Drew: I so appreciate you saying that because that is validating a reality that I always felt like people didn't believe me. I was being too hyperbolic.

Olivia: You mean about the fear of your children?

Drew: Yes.

Olivia: You know, here's what this is the only thing that has helped me. I think of, and I think it's really gonna help you. I'm like I made it. Like if I used to run the streets of Tokyo, that's where I grew up, at like 6 years old by myself with my siblings, and I'm still here, like our kids will be OK.

We are here, they are here, and they're gonna be OK.

Olivia on Drew Allowing People to Connect with Each Other & Embracing the Straddle

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Olivia: By having this show and being you, being completely thoroughly you, when everybody's like, why is she touching everyone, you know.

Drew: I know it's so embarrassing.

Olivia: No, it's not because it's like you, what you're putting out in the world where, where a lot of us have things that are so curated and we want people to see that we have everything under control, you're allowing people to be more vulnerable and to hold each other and to touch each other and to connect with people that we've just met with.

Drew: You just helped me.

Olivia: Well, I hope I did.

Drew: You really did on like 4 different things trust, children…I’m gonna leave here a better person, you know, I mean it's true, thank you and by the way I could never be that person who's over here like, oh really? That's so interesting, I have to stop myself from straddling when you.

Olivia: You can straddle.