“WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU?” AUTHORS OPRAH WINFREY & DR. BRUCE PERRY

AIR DATE: FRIDAY, APRIL 30^TH

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Oprah Reveals Watching Drew’s Show Has Changed Her Life & Shares Her Thoughts on the Future of In-Person Interviews

https://drewbarrymoreshow.cimediacloud.com/r/HbLfqmta0dWG

Drew: Welcome to the show. Dare I say maybe you’ve seen it?

Oprah: Yes, I have and may I say, dare I say, seeing it actually changed my life. You have changed my life, you certainly changed my work life because I was there for that very first show where you beamed in Cameron and there you all were and we didn’t know that you all weren’t in the same space. I watched that and said, ‘Hey, why can’t we do what Drew did?’ And since that time for ‘Oprah Conversations’ for Apple TV, the first time I did it was with President Barack Obama talking about his book ‘Promised Land,’ and there we were sitting right across from each other in my living room in front of the fireplace and I said then, this is because of you Drew, so thank you.

Drew: I have to thank you so much because you didn’t need to give us the credit but you did and for those who are not aware here’s a little taped piece on the technology Oprah and I are talking about…I thank you so much because I am going to be really honest I haven’t admitted this out loud, it was really scary for me to be a girl, a woman, I don’t know what I am, a female, asking for people to take a risk and spend this money and ask ourselves these questions. And I’m so grateful to my bosses that they allowed for us to do this because this was a check and risk away from not happening. And I want to ask you is this where we are going? The water is out of the bottle, people are not going to travel the way they used to. People have gotten comfortable with interview styles, some are going to show up, some aren’t. You are going to have access to more people than you ever did in some ways because of the technology…

Oprah: Yeah, I 1,000% percent agree with that and that’s why I say you literally changed my life, because listen after Drew, I’m not going nowhere. The truth is you are able to have better access and I think there will certainly be times in both of our lives, in our careers when being directly in front of the person makes a world of difference and may be necessary, but I think in terms of having access to anybody in the world at any time what you all did in that first show lit the path for changing it forever.

Gayle Drops By on FaceTime During Oprah’s Interview & Oprah on Why She Believes Gayle Is The Best Model Parent

https://drewbarrymoreshow.cimediacloud.com/r/LqkZgHzGS0RE

Oprah: I’m doing Drew, I’m doing Drew right now.

Drew: Hi Gayle. I just want to say I think the three of us should get together, I think that would be so much fun.

Oprah: Yes, when this pandemic is over let’s make sure that happens Drew, alright Gayle I’ll talk to you later. Bye…

Drew: We need you on the daily. I listened to your SiriusXM channel through both of my pregnancies and it was my daily north star, it was my daily fix. I’ll never forget the story you told about Gayle getting the water for the traffic cop and how that moment was her being such an important and good parent to her son because she was showing him the kind of person to be. And that gave me hope because I felt so lost, like what blueprint do I have to pull on to become a parent. I was scared out of my mind and I thought hearing that story if I can be an example to my kids maybe I don’t have to draw from my past or even fight it, I can try to be myself and that can give me hope to be a good parent. That story literally changed my life, so thank you for that.

Oprah: Well you know Gayle is to date, and she always says, ‘Well all parents do that,’ and all parents say, ‘No they don’t.’ Gayle is to date the best model parent I have ever seen. I’ve never seen anybody who was more engaged, more respectful of her children. And when she first had kids, you know because we were best friends and met at a television station in Baltimore, and once she married and had kids I thought well there’s going to be distance in our relationship because she’s not going to have time to devote to our friendship and that did not happen. What did happen, every time she was on the phone with me and one of her children entered the room she would put the phone down, even if she didn’t put the phone down, they would be acknowledged, she was present there for them. She would say, ‘Mommy’s on the phone now with Auntie O,’ and ‘Morning Bear,’ she calls Kirby Bear. There was an acknowledgement and what I would have to say over the years, a mutual respect and I know we are going to be talking later about the subject of “What Happened to You?” but one of the things that Dr. Perry says in this book is that when children grow up and they realize they are not getting the respect that they deserve from their parents, it changes who they are. What your kids want, and this is actually true of everybody, they want to know that you are here, that you see me and you hear me and I matter to you and that is true to everybody else in your life too.

Oprah on Her School for Girls Being Created to Save Herself & Shares The Wisdom Maya Angelou Bestowed Upon Her Regarding Her Legacy

https://drewbarrymoreshow.cimediacloud.com/r/4gdvzjdLWqCJ

Oprah: It is possible to take your post traumatic pain and turn that into post traumatic power and post traumatic wisdom. I know this for sure that whatever has happened to you can also be for you if you allow it to be. The thing that has healed me the most is taking the pain that I endured, suffered, survived as a child and turning that inside out. So that is why I created my school, specifically looking for girls like me who came from poor backgrounds, who came from dysfunctional backgrounds, who many times felt unwanted, unloved. How do I create an environment for them? How do I give back? This is how you save yourself, how do I give back that which I was not given? When you can do that you begin to fill the hole inside yourself. That giving back has become really what my legacy is. And I will share this with you, I was sitting with Maya Angelou after I’d come back from the opening of my school and I said, ‘Oh the school, oh this is going to be my greatest legacy. I mean these girls, this is what my life was for.’ And she said, ‘You have no idea what your legacy will be.’ And I said, ‘No, no Maya, you should have been there. I’m telling you it’s going to be the school.’ And she said, ‘I said, you have no idea what your legacy will be. Your legacy is every life you touch. Your legacy isn’t your name on a school or any other building. Your legacy is every life you touch.’ So I say this to you Drew Barrymore, this is what Maya said to me, ‘Everybody who has ever watched a show and decided I’m going to go back to school, I’m going to go on a diet, I’m going to treat myself better, I’m going to leave an abusive relationship. Every life that you have touched that has experienced your voice and the power of your platform that is your legacy.’

Drew: And that is why in Oprah we trust.

Oprah Shares with Drew & Dr. Bruce Perry The Realization That Gayle Was The Regulator in Her Life All These Years After Re-Reading “What Happened to You?”

https://drewbarrymoreshow.cimediacloud.com/r/d4Q0UC6oiBRR

https://youtu.be/Q6J7hPlnmJc

Oprah: I’ve never had therapy, I’ve only had therapy on television in front of all of y’all and what I realized, I didn’t even share this with you Dr. Perry, what I realized is that Gayle was my regulation, it makes me want to cry now thinking about it. Every night after the show I would come home and I would have these sessions with Gayle where we talked about what happened on the show, or what didn’t happen on the show, and that was the way I kind of regulated myself so I would talk to Gayle before bed, and I would be calmer. And it wasn’t until I not only was co-authoring the book but actually went back and re-read the book that I realized, ‘Oh Gayle was what I used for my sense of regulation,’ and is still the person in my life. I have probably three people in my life who are going to tell me the truth no matter what.

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